30
Oct
08

Say what you mean, and mean what you say

I’m using this post as an avenue to vent at the moment. I’m in quite a pickle/dilemma/stressful situation right now and am really frustrated at the fact that I feel as though I’ve been a bit misled, and hung out to dry. There’s no need to go into specifics, but here are my thoughts:

Seriously – there’s nothing that drives me more crazy than people who are passive. We’re grown-ups people. That means that you confront people when there’s an issue or something is wrong – don’t practice avoidance and leave the tough stuff up to someone else. You’ll end up settling and following others for the rest of your life, and the people who DO stand up will resent you for it. If you say something to someone, don’t turn around 5 minutes later and say something different to someone else. Make a decision – and stand by it. If you want to change things, do or say something. And, if someone is going to bat on your behalf, then back them up and don’t change you mind after they’ve done it – it makes the “batter” look like an idiot. 

If you’re afraid you might hurt someone’s feelings, then find a way to say whatever it is you have to say, diplomatically – that does not mean LIE. You might think you’re sparing someone’s feelings, but at the end of the day, I think most people would rather be told the truth.

People should say what they mean, and mean what they say; don’t tell someone one thing, but expect them to understand the exact opposite of what you said. And for those who are on the other side, hearing things they don’t want to hear? Grow-up and realize that life’s not always fair. Sometimes you get your way, and sometimes you don’t. That’s life. Get over it, and move on.

All of these random thoughts are coming out of my latest dilemma but are also completely related to dating. Think about it – how much easier would life be if every ‘single’ followed these rules: Don’t play games. Tell the truth. Mean what you say. Say what you mean. If you’re not feeling the vibe with someone? Say so. If you are? Say so. If someone’s not into you, accept it and move on. Confront issues head on. Be diplomatic. Be kind AND truthful. YOU ARE A GROWN-UP AND LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR.

End of rant.

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3 Responses to “Say what you mean, and mean what you say”


  1. 1 MOM
    November 1, 2008 at 10:33 am

    Very well put and completely justified. Read it again and move on! Sometimes people don’t like to hear the truth. Some people speak the truth to help others grow personally with the hope that they will come to an inner happiness and contentment. Read it again and move on!

  2. 2 niecey24
    November 2, 2008 at 12:55 am

    Could not have said it better myself!!! {{Round of applause}}


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