Posts Tagged ‘chick lit


Is it a Single Girl’s world?

I’m determined that at some point I’m going to write a post about all the advantages to being single. I know that there are many. But to be brutally honest, most of the time, I find being single very lonely. Around the holiday season, I find it especially tough.lonely

I’ve been single most of my life. At (almost) 27, I’veĀ  had one serious relationship that lasted about two years. I have never been the ‘boy-crazy’ type, but I’m not a wallflower either. I’ve dated around. The funny thing is, I’m not so sure that it’s the ‘being single’ that bothers me, as much as it’s the fact that I’m bothered by the fact that it…bothers me! Does that make sense? In a world of Sex and the City, female presidential nominees, and chick-lit, aren’t we supposed to embrace our inner single girl? To be independent, strong and happy on our own? To have it all? To focus on our careers, and our friends, and our interests, instead of wishing for a husband or partner? It feels expected now that single girls have to be happy about being single, or else they’re seen as being some kind of ‘house-wife wannabe’ stuck in the 50’s (and just for the record…that could not be further from who I am!)

I am a strong, independent, out-spoken, intelligent woman, with a good education and a job I love and am good at. But does that mean I have to be happy being single? Because…I’m kind of ….not. I want a partner. Someone to share things with. To cuddle with, to work with, cook with, sleep with, talk with, travel with, fight with….and just ‘be’ with. All of it. Being single has it’s advantages, and I’m glad I’ve been able to spend my early twenties figuring out who I am without being influenced by anyone else. I’ve had the chance to meet people, to date, to travel, and to make my own decisions about anything and everything without having to consult with anyone. So, is it strange that sometimes I feel like a fraudulent “single girl” because I’m not really enjoying my single life?

This post is full of introspective and rhetorical questions….guess I just needed to get it out of my system. Would be curious to hear your thoughts!


my favourite books for single women

Despite the fact that I have a university degree in English Language and Literature, I’d much prefer to read a good “chick lit” book over Austen or Dickens. I’d be arrested for admitting that in any university classroom, but there you have it.

At the start of the whole “chick lit” revolution a few years ago, there were some great books. Now I find that there’s just this huge section of pink books in every book store with the same cover – the back of someone’s legs wearing high heels, or a caricature of martinis and wedding rings. And all the plots sound the same! But, here are a few that I have really enjoyed, and hope some of you might too.

He’s Just Not That Into You

I bought this book incognito – with shades and a hat on. Because it was featured on Oprah for women who were in relationships that they shouldn’t be in, and I didn’t want to be seen as one of those people who believes everything that’s on Oprah. But this book was fantastic – witty, candid and honestly, incredibly truthful. I defiinitely believe that any girl who has been in a relationship that didn’t work out can relate to this book. It features all of the excuses we make for our boyfriends, and why they’re not as great as we think they should be. I will actually put it out there that I think EVERY WOMAN should read this book.

How To Be Single

I just read this book this summer, and it’s by the co-author of “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Again, another book I bought icognito (like I wanted to be seen buying a book with this title! LOL). But this is not a self-help book, it is a fiction novel. And it’s fantastic! It’s all about a woman doing research for her book, and she travels all over the world talking to other single women about what being single is like in their country. It was so interesting to hear about how women have such different perspectives about this topic – it seems other countries are much more progressive when it comes to being OK, with being single. We North Americans THINK that we are, but let’s just say this book made me want to pick up and move to Europe. A great read.

Something Borrowed and it’s sequel Something Blue

Chick lit at it’s best. A great page turner, light, and roots for the single girl underdog. Don’t let the baby pink cover with the engagement ring turn you off! These two books are perfect for the beach or a vacation get away. Although the first one deals with the topic of cheating, somehow, it seems OK for this protagonist. You’ll know what I mean when you read it.

Love The One You’re With

Also by the author of Something Borrowed, and Something Blue, this is a great book for those of you who have had two loves of your life. You understand the protagonist’s pull towards her past relationship; the guy with all the chemistry, attraction, and great memories – even though he was far from an exemplary boyfriend. Versus the wonderful but comfortable man she’s with now. This is a great book for those who have continued to go back to someone you know is no good for you. And haven’t we all been there?

The Year of Yes

This book is exactly as it sounds. It’s about a woman who decides that for one year, she’s going to say “Yes” to, not only every guy that asks her out, but to every dating opportunity. Even if it’s a cab driver that gives her a compliment. Talk about being exhausted from dating. But, it’s inspirational and funny.

The Pact

This isn’t exactly “chick lit” but it’s an amazing page turner and love story about two teenagers who make a romantic but disturbing pact. This was my favourite book for a LONG TIME until The Nanny Diaries blew me away and became my new favourite (NOTE: The Nanny Diaries movie sucked big time compared to the book – don’t let the movie turn you off if you’ haven’t read this one.) The Pact is moving, suspenseful and heart-wrenching. Definitely recommend it.

Well, I think that’s enough to keep some of you busy for now! Note that I’ve read a lot of chick lit books, but these are just some of the ones I’d really recommend and/or enjoyed the most. I’m no literary expert! If any of you have read, or end up reading one of these, let me know what you think.

P.S. Has anyone read Eat, Pray, Love? This one was also featured on Oprah and I heard SOO many people rave about it. But, I found it rather boring!? Anyone else? I feel like an anomaly here…


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